Every man has heard all of his life. Women from day one of our lives have complained that he don’t listen or pay attention to what they are saying. As in all things, there is a little truth in everything. Men and women both don’t listen to the other properly at times. There can be a lot of factors involved with this.
Maybe you had a hard day at work, didn’t get enough sleep and feel grumpy, or you just don’t feel like listening. Most people have problems listening because listening requires effort. Yes that’s right, we are lazy. We don’t want to put forth the effort to listen. Listening requires some brain activity because you have to digest what is being said.
Another aspect of it is that we like to talk more than we like to listen. We like the attention from someone listening to us talk. We all like to know that what we are saying is important to someone else. So much so, that at times we may neglect to hear what the other person is saying. I can remember one time me and a girlfriend were driving down the road. We were going out to dinner and I was hungry as hell. She jabbered constantly for abut half of the way to the restaurant. After awhile I just shook my head and pretended I was listening, while all I could think about was what I was going to eat at the restaurant.
One of the things I have realized that when it comes to listening: If you actually spend some time listening to what the other person has to say, in the long run it takes less time. Because they will get a sense that you aren’t listening and they will repeat it over and over again. Women are bad at this. I think that when a woman senses a man is listening to her, it means to her that he is understanding, caring, and interested in what she has to say. I know that some times this maybe a hard task if your woman has diarrhea of the mouth, but look on the bright side. Look at her when she is talking to you, when you get board take a glimpse of her breasts. If you are a breast man like me, that will reinforce why you are listening to her in the first place.
There are times that a good stimulating conversation is very satisfying. Take advantage of this. The more you learn about one another, the better your relationship will be. Hey, if she thinks you are a sincere caring man, you might get lucky more often. That can’t hurt can it? You can improve your listening skills by doing several things. You can focus on what is being said and not what your response to what is being said. Simply put, listen to what she is saying and think about what you will say after she is finished. If you are like me and your mind runs a mile a minute, this will help a lot. This will help you because you won’t loose focus. Try asking questions. So many times in a conversation we tend to allow ourselves to over look what we don’t understand. Ask questions if you don’t know what she is talking about.
Of course if the conversation is about her having clots during her period, you don’t have to ask questions about that.